But if you’re willing to play the game,
It’s coming around again.*
And so it always does.
Back again for all to see, back again for all to attach hope and back again for everyone to start again, a chance to put the past failures behind us and a chance to try again.
Monday is the clean slate we all wish for when we mess up, when things don’t go according to plan and when we feel like we have let ourselves down.
You guys know only too well that Monday for me has quite often been this day of starting over but on this occasion I am pleased to report I have nothing to start over from. I had a good week last week with both my food intake and my not drinking. I also enjoyed three trips to the gym and a few good walks.
A week well spent?
I’d like to think so.
A week I shall be repeating I think.
Also, on a Monday, you would usually get a report of a Sunday Stroll but I am sorry to say for the second week running I have missed out on such a walk. However, unfortunately this time it was due to a vigorous bout of back pain running from my neck down into my shoulder blades which stopped me getting a good lung full of fresh air without flinching in agony! To say that I was incapacitated would be one way of putting it for sure but it didn’t stop Archie getting several short walks throughout the day. To be honest although it is a little better today it is still there so I shall have to see how it affects me at the gym a little later and also when I take his lordship for a walk around the woods in Ardington,because we are both due a little time in the countryside – what a lucky boy my dog is!
So what’s with the title of todays post?
In our lives, we are told everything is random and it is only us holding on to familiarity that makes life follow a particular path. Even then, nothing stays the same, we age, we get bigger/smaller, unhealthier/healthy or unhappier/happy, so it is entirely up to us how we will imagine ourselves and create what we want for ourselves.
I would like to think that we are the masters of our own destiny’s and there for the architects of our own success or failures. If we continually say “I cannot” – do that, have that, love her/him, drive there, lose this weight, go to the gym, go for a walk etc etc then we will never achieve anything that we want and no matter how many Monday morning’s come around offering change we will still be exactly where we don’t want to be.
Change is about effecting a positive mental attitude. Go getting and success comes from a positive mental attitude where you tell yourself you can. Personally I suffered from “I can’t” for many years along with suffering from the negatives of “I am” – sick, broke, unhappy, lonely, fat… the list can go on.
As I have said before only we can effect change and if we are not “no time like the present” people then we have to plan for it and Monday morning becomes our go to morning when we are going to start to change our lives. But how about this, how about making small changes right this minute? How about making the big changes on a gradual sliding scale of effort so that they become habit before they hurt? Leave the easy stuff like “from Monday I shall watch what I eat” or “from Monday I shall walk the dog farther than usual” to that illusive Monday so that you are actually making a change to your lifestyle that you are totally aware of?
All of these little changes are known as an aggregation of margins which basically means we make lots of little changes and over a period of time, things add up and before we know it, life has taken a turn for the better. This is exactly the same for almost everything, whether you are adding a new exercise to a gym routine, having one less sugar in your cup of tea, one less cookie for elevensies or deciding to like yourself a little more and tell yourself positive “I am’s” – successful, determined, happy, loved, capable…. etc etc.
The human mind is still a strong and powerful muscle even when we thing it is broken and weak. I spent many years of feeling sorry for myself and having no confidence and all it took was for one person to have some belief in me, agree that I would be an ideal candidate for my surgery and look at how my life is blossoming now? Yes I still have issues, I still have problems but I am learning to deal with them, I am learning to cope with them because not only can a body get stronger with exercise, a mind can get stronger the same way. We feel some success and we feel better about ourselves. This in turn improves our mood cycle and makes us more positive. Things get better because we exercise our minds and bodies.
Go ahead and give it a try, I promise it will work.
Stay out of the fridge.
*Carly Simon – Coming Around Again.