A Little Sweetness Goes A Long Way

Morning everyone, today I would like to talk about something that has become closer to my heart since I have lost weight than ever before.

Good manners and treating people with respect.

As they say in all of the old East End Gangster films no matter what walk of life you are from and whether rich or poor, good manners cost “nuffink” – That is nothing to the rest of the world… 😉

Since I have started to really change shape with my weight loss I am in receipt of so much better manners than I have ever been before, I am wondering of I should find it a little disconcerting or not.

I hadn’t actually noticed a change in other peoples behaviour toward me since losing the weight until a friend of mine who is about a month behind me in her post Bariatric surgery recovery said that in her opinion, people were far nicer to her now that she was slimmer than ever before, but after giving it some consideration, I have to admit that she may have a point.

I was NEVER looked at prior to my operation unless it was with contempt or wonder at how someone might let themselves get into the situation that I found myself in. Now people whom I have never met before smile at me, they engage me in conversation and they are impressed when I “thunder” past them when out for a power walk.

Everything has changed and in some ways it’s great but in others it is so wrong.

Why should we be treated differently just because we are big or small or black or white etc etc – add nauseum. I drove past the bus stop the other day and two girls were sitting there waiting for the bus. I merely glanced in their direction and was greeted with smiles and happy looks. In the past if this had happened I would have simply been looked straight through. My friend I speak of tells me that since she has lost weight people are far more inclined to hold the door open for her, wish her a good morning or simply step aside if it is a tight squeeze instead of getting the thing I recall which was the “You can wait fatty” stare..!

Absolutely pathetic but I suppose this is the world we live in. I know I have changed my demeanour since my wight loss because I have found I no longer need be as defensive as I was because people are not out to attack me (oh yes, before you ask, I had many many issues with people over the years simply because I was big) and this is something that is hard to reconcile with my new found size.

Remarkable as it is though, as I have gotten smaller, people have gotten nicer. In the past I ruled with a certain amount of fear and most people did my bidding. But stroke my belly and I would be putty in your hands. Nowadays it is no where near the same, people are open and honest with me as I smile and amble my way along life’s meandering pathway, however there is no longer a need for the belly rub because it turns out that if we all treated each other how I am now being treated, a little sweetness really does go a long way.

FOOD DIARY:Monday 14th September 2015

Qty Measure Food Calories (gr) Protein (gr) Carbs (gr) Fat (gr)
Breakfast  1  350mls  Phd Diet Whey Protein 182  34  5.5  2.8
Lunch  1 Small Bowl Quinoa and Greek Feta Prawn Salad  198  25  13  7.2
Dinner  1 Small Bowl  Beef Stroganoff  247 14  35  8
Snacks  2  400mls  Tea  11.8  0  0.8  0
Totals  638.8  73  54.3  18
Water  2  Litres  Mineral and Tap Water  0  0  0  0

A good days food with good numbers and good choices made. Nothing much else to say on that really other than maybe it was a little low considering I did an ordinary walk and a power walk so probably burnt more calories than I might have originally thought I would.

Now, as promised in yesterday’s blog there was a great deal of activity on this day and below you will find the truth in my proofs 😉

So my activity appears to be back in full swing starting the day with a gentle walk taken with Archie the dog and his two friends Mudbud and Humphrey (Sorry it is a previous still as I forgot to turn off at the end of the walk and had it follow me all the way back home in the car!)


Which I followed up with another power walk taken after I had once again dropped Archie back at home to save his little legs 😉 It was good but not as good as the previous night 😦


Then came my return to the gym and my usual cardio session of 25 minutes where I was so tired I could have cut it short at any time however I decided that I would carry on and ended up with some pretty good figures prior to my strength training.

  1. 2 x 30 Reps 35kg Abductor machine
  2. 2 x 30 Reps 35kg Adductor machine
  3. 2 x 30 Reps 35kg Abdominal Crunch machine
  4. 2 x 30 Reps 35kg Lower Back machine
  5. 3 x 30 Reps 25kg Cable Row
  6. 2 x 40 Reps 20kg Chest Press
  7. 2 x 40 Reps 30kg Pec Deck
  8. 3 x 30 Reps 22.5kg Tricep Pull Down
  9. 3 x 30 Reps 8kg (each arm) Bicep Dumbell Curl
  10. 3 x 30 Standing Oblique 20kg Barbell Twists (15 each side)
  11. 3 x 30 Standing Russian Oblique Weighted Bar Twists (15 each side)

Some of the more interested of you might notice the slight increase in the chest reps and the tricep weight which all helped to give a Polar H7 reading of 700 calories burned in the gym and 321 calories burnt on my power walk.


So all of the walking and working out at the gym gave me a Jawbone Up2 reading of over 13,500 steps so I was very happy with the days effort.


Today see’s me on a rest day and although I will walk the dog, there seems little point in posting the results as it will be a very simple and gentle walk for him in the morning

‘Till tomorrow,

Stay out of the fridge.

9 thoughts on “A Little Sweetness Goes A Long Way

  1. sleeveforme22 says:

    A friend and I had a similar conversation a couple weeks ago. I noticed the politeness increase too and at first it offended me because I was still worthy of niceness when I was heavier. I’ve talked myself into just overlooking the rudeness of that and going out of my way to be extra friendly/nice to folks – especially ones that get often overlooked.

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  2. simplysandilynn says:

    I have noticed the same thing. Although I will say that as I have lost weight, I walk taller and with more confidence. I am more apt to look someone in the eye and smile. In the past, I hunkered down, almost wallflower-ish, not wanting to be noticed.

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  3. needeanshu says:

    It’s really sad the way people are treated based on colour and weight.. But that’s the so called society we live in.. Even here in India it is the same scenario.. If your are thin nothing else matters even if you are a dimwit..anyways what matters is how we feel about ourselves and two hoots to the rest of the world..

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  4. New Journey says:

    How true Cameron….I know that some people are totally grossed out by heavy people, I always think how shallow of them….God forbid something happens to them and the find themselves overweight….Even before I was really heavy I always found myself being extra kind to those who were over weight, or just the odd ball out…come on people we all bleed red…its almost like the bullies grow up into really nasty, narrow, minded adults…I always ask anyone that looks like they could use a hand If I could help, there are those people who don’t want anyone’s help and have a point to prove to themselves….learned that the hard way…I raced over to open a door for a wheel chair person and got blasted that they could do it themselves….whew!! didn’t expect that, so now I always ask if I can help, and not assume…LOL I haven’t notices any difference to the way people are treating me yet, maybe it will happen or maybe not…but now I will be watching…LOL and my friend you are amazing…..kathy

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  5. Worlds Biggest Fridge Magnet says:

    Thanks Kathy, you are very kind to say so. I do my best 😉
    There will always be idiots in every walk of life and they will always look for the weakest link on whom to take out their frustrations.
    It is a bad part of human nature and we should as you say, nurture the ones who are having issues and not hate them for being different.
    Just you carry on living your life as you do and most of all continue to be wonderful!


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